Tuesday, August 31, 2010

I'm about as crazy as they come...

I am just going to go out on a limb and say it....I barely sleep through one night a week and we actually have a Dr.'s appt planned for preconception counseling. You heard it. We want another baby. None of it makes sense. I just knew, every time I wanted to "try" for a baby, that THAT was the right time...and I feel it again...and of course, Jarrod is on board...Having a baby to him, is just another thing we do round these parts, haha! Kidding....but yeah, it makes no sense....I barely function now because Jolee is beyond high maintenance...but we thrive on chaos, always have.....so why start trying to make life easy now right?

I need advice though...and I guess since this is my blog I can be up front and tell you what kind of advice I want and the kind that makes me cringe that I will never listen to....I need advice on how to help my 4 year old son stay in his bed all night. He goes to bed ok, but he used to go to bed and stay asleep amazingly! Now, not so much...the scaries seem to have entered his mind. He rarely watches anything but educational shows but for some reason he is "scared of the dark" and "scared of monsters"...I've tried a lot of things and he is starting to go down fine on his own but there are some nights where he panics and I have to lay with him until he falls asleep....I would suffer through that if he stayed asleep but why on earth is he getting up EVERY night at 2-3am? Literally EVERY night for months...I need to get it to stop because we are starting to plan for baby 3 and I cannot suffer through newborn/2 year old/4 year old night drama!

I am more of an attachment parent though...so cry it out advice, don't give it....I don't let my children cry for very long....and I don't lock kids in rooms, or add barriers to keep them in their rooms because James often goes potty at night and I don't want to have him having accidents. I like comforting, nuturing, caring methods...those are the only ones I will try....So maybe there are no tips for people like me then huh? ;) We have a great routine and our nighttime routine is very structured but I just can't get him to STAY asleep! Any ideas?

5 comments:

  1. Um, I'll email ya... my reply is longer than your post ;o)

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  2. Kaia came to our bed probably until about 4...then magically stopped. School helps to keep them tuckered out long enough to last through the night. ;o) Jaron, my sleepy cuddly bear, started coming to our room for a little while...but also stopped @ 4 too. So, maybe'll you'll come to a stop soon? *finger crossed* Hope all is well up there!

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  3. I forgot to update! We bribed him with a really special (expensive) toy and it only took 2 nights! He stays in bed all night now. We told him he could have a "big boy gift" if he stayed in his big boy bed and it worked! He got out once but we threatened to take it back and now we are good!

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  4. Well that's great. I was about to suggest "Monster Spay" and a flashlight. And not all of us parents are extremes. I don't think I am attached but I would throw a fit if someone said lock him in there. Then again I might not get all the fancy terms. So I'll just say which ever of the four is the problem decides the action around here. Just know that the third is the hardest cause then your outnumbered after that its all gravy.

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  5. Thanks Sheena! We bribed essentially but it worked and he stays put now! Maybe I should say we used "an incentive" haha! I actually saw someone lock their babies in a room on a tv show! It was crazy! Maybe if they had a video monitor but still...usually when babies/kids cry, they need something...at least reassurance. And, I sorta feel outnumbered already but I do think 3 will be the hardest! ;)

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